Baby Registry

Some people think that creating a registry is a fun thing to do. Afterall, you get to pick all the "cute" stuff for your new baby, and maybe, just maybe, for yourself and you don't have to pay for it. You might want to put "cute" clothes and toys on the registry that make your friends go awww and they do want to buy those awww soo cute stuff for you.

To be honest, not a lot of those baby stuff makes me go awww. Sometimes I would even think to myself, what kind of parents would put their kids in things like that?! Again, anything your baby uses/owns, says a lot about your taste, not the baby's.

Gender steroetyle issue

I especially HATE those gender specific items. Why do baby girls have to wear pink? Why do baby boys have to wear blue? I don't mind blue. As a matter of fact, I really like blue. But at the same time, I don't want to buy EVERYTHING blue for my kid. Apparently the kid's clothing manufacturers provide very limited options for parents.

I do believe any guy who can pull off pink is pretty confident, thus hot. Of course no one ever said baby boys can't wear pink. But I bet none of the parents would buy pink for boys, because, that's how they are programmed. That's how the society programs us. Well, not that I am going to put my baby in pink. For the record, I hate pink.

And those crib mobiles, why do they have to only make tigers, lions, elephants, bicycles, cars, trains....for boys; butterflies, ballerinas, hearts, birdies.... for girls?

Cuteness issue

What you think is cute does not mean it is cute. I don't see how a body suit that has "ears" attached to the hood would make the outfit cute. Would you wear that yourself? If not, then maybe you shouldn't put it on your baby. I also don't know how headbands on girls make sense but it seems to be very very popular. I guess I wouldn't understand because I am not having a girl.

There are also too many things in stripes as some of moms have mentioned. I guess stripes are fine, sometimes, depending how one wears it. But please don't put your babies in head-to-toe stripes - "matching" sounds like a good idea but it is over-kill in this case. He or she will hate you when they grow up.

Practicality issue

I compared a lot of different registry lists and came out with my own. My priority is practicality. Even though people might not want to buy diapers for my baby, but that's the only thing my baby will need the most when he comes home. Same goes to wipes, bottles, and more diapers. I buy diapers as gifts whenever I see them on anyone's baby registry. Some of parents thought I did it as a joke (but dude, you did register for it) but I don't joke about serious business like, diapers.

I did, however, put a couple "cute" things on my registry to make people go awww. Then again, you might not think they are cute. Whatever, my baby needs to be toughened up, he does not need cute things.

#babyregistry
DearJulie



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Workout of the day
Seated good morning: 3x10
Squat: 3x10
Deadlift: 3x10
Leg curl: 3x10
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UES mommy's group

This sucker caved and joined a mommy's group. She is going onto the pathetic path becoming one of those ladies. Good that they don't know about my blog and they don't read about how I bashing them hard.

A couple good things about this group is that they are open-minded - they talk about all kinds of subjects: alternative medicine, sharing nannies, fun activities and all. There is a monthly mommy's night out which I am kindda looking for next month and see what exactly those ladies look like in person. They also give a log of hand-me-downs and I am hoping to pick up a good deal or two.

My progress has been .... zero. Nursery is not set up and stroller and car seat are not bought. Even though blueberry should arrive in 10 weeks....I think what happens to TB and I is that we know there is an urgency, but somehow we subconsciously resist to face the reality that it is happening. It is like we are in a denial mode. WE KNOW WHAT NEED TO GET DONE, but we just can't bring ourselves to do it. It's always next week(end)

Our procrastination does not give our first kid a good example. But, oh wells! Do we already sound like bad parents? Hm. Nah, we are just parents with a very alternative style. I'd like to think that my kid is different in that way.

Week 30

It feels like fall in the air. Well, it is fall after all- the best time of New York City. The change in the weather is somehow romantic ...

It is also football season - NCAA and NFL. This is what's happening at home at lease. Blueberry has been "listening" to a lot of Michigan fight song that he could respond to it when he hears it. He also likes the before-bed NFL session which can be soothing, although we limit TV time to the minimal. But I did say before, football season would totally ruin the TV time.

Work has been busy all the time until now. Blueberry has been there to help me throughout the year and he has been great. I fell one time though - it was not pretty but blueberry was able to hang in there.

Now, I am finally in week 30, still (trying to be) active, but I feel tired more easily, just like what the book says. Once I am tired, I guess my immune system gets weak, and that's when I get sick easily. Unfortunately I don't want to take any medicine and hope that my body can fight it all off, which usually result in a forever long recovery.

Belly is still growing - I am not sure how big it's going to get. I have been having trouble getting out of bed. But I hope I won't lose my balance once the belly grows to the point when I can't handle.

Blueberry still has no name. We might really have to wait until the moment we see him.

The book says that I should have mood swing and all that crap, but I really don't. I started feeling nervous that's for sure - I don't handle pain very well. Sometimes I think to myself, well, it's just a 12 hours labor, how hard could it be?! But then I also hear about women being in labor for more than 24 hours. Human body continues to amaze me. My very deformed body is going to be teared apart and it will also heal by itself. And in no time, I shall gain my 6-pack back. Wow, really?! Let me take on that challenge.

So can anyone tell me what's so bad about having a C-section that almost no one I talk to wants to plan a birth like that?

Things that are extermely stupid

Once again, DearJulie is going to offend a lot of people. But, SHE DOES NOT GIVE A SHIT.

Living in my neighborhood is great - quiet, lots of restaurants, convenient to public transits, and easy to get in and out of the city. However there are just things that annoy the heck out of me and I find them extremely stupid.

Goyard

It might be a status thing. Every, not almost every, but EVERY lady has one and they use it as a diaper bag. First of all, Goyard bags are UGLY. Secondly, there is no zipper, no pockets and no nothing in this stupidly priced bag. I think it's pretty stupid to use it as a diaper bag. It might be most useful for grocery shopping which they do use it for grocery.

Entitlement

Ladies and moms in this neighborhood feel very entitled. They will argue with the poor staff at Maison Kayers for not getting their coffee when they were actually waiting in the wrong line. But yes, Maison Kayers needs to do a better job letting people know where and how to get coffee. One ladies had 3 kids with her and she was so loud that everyone was looking at her. When you listen carefully to what she had to argue for, you know it was obviously her own fault. Still, she thought she was right.

Attitude

Ladies here always have their eyes looking above their heights. Meaning that when they look at you , they don't really look at you. They look at the spot above your head. I am not sure why when some of them are actually short. It's funny to watch.

Lady 'scorner and nanny's corner

They gather. Maybe to gossip and maybe just to hang out.  Yeah, hanging out at the corner of the street.
Usually there is a lady's corner and there is a nanny's corner. Those ladies talk in high pitch voice caring nothing about what passers-by and laugh hysterically loud as if they want the world to know that they are funny when they actually are not. The nanny's group is awesome - they might be speaking different languages but they totally understand each other. Another thing I notice was, the kids in the strollers pushed by nannies look happier than kids in the strollers pushed by those ladies.

Please help me God. Don't ever let me become one of those ladies.

#observation
DearJulie


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Workout: 45 minutes cycling
Deadlift: 3x10
Seated good morning: 3x15
Squat: 3x10
Leg curl: 3x10

As a result, I treated myself to a Bareburger! :)
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A couple months ago I said I was huge. I was not lying. I really have not been this huge in my life. But maybe in others' eyes, I am progressing OK for this pregnancy.

However, I am really gigantic now. I have gained 25+ lbs so far and I don't even know if it's blueberry who is gaining weight or just me.  My belly is really sticky out out - I can still bend down. I just can't see my feet or anything that's covered by the belly when I look down.

And, because some of my views have been blocked by my belly, I lost track of when to mow the lawn.  I could feel it when I shower and it's pretty nasty. I used to remember to mow the lawn every other month but recently I have just forgotten about it. Yes, I have made my appointment to do so. That's also one of the important to-dos before I go to deliver the baby in the hospital. Even though my doctor is female, I don't want her to see anything bushy.

My belly is not perfectly round. Well, I thought a pregnant belly should be in a perfect round shape. My belly button is outties now and when I wear fitted clothes, which is all the time, I can see it sticking out, like how my nipples stick out. I just tell myself it's natural regardless how people look at me walking on the street.

Some people are amazed by how I go to the gym every day. But I also know when to rest and not do anything. I have to say, I love how I carry on my workout routine. I am still doing squats and dead lifts which help prevent any back issue that could have happened during pregnancy. All my work stress did reflect on my body but usually a pre-natal massage can relief it. The place I go to is called Magic Hand. How cheesy.

UES moms and pregnant women do show how they feel they are entitled. Sometimes they crack me up y complaining about things. I swear I will not become one of them. They also congregate at street corners, pushing the strollers with a cup of Starbucks coffee, chatting up with other ladies.

Unfortunately, I don't belong to any mommy group. Maybe I should join and make friends and talk about babies.

I want to apologize to all my friends who I have been recently. I apologize for talking too much about me and my pregnancy. I used to promise myself I will not talk about my pregnancy when I am pregnant at any social occasion, because, if I were other people, I wouldn't want to hear about it. Again, I slightly became one of those ladies. I'll change.

#nopregnancytalk
DearJulie